I suddenly remembered a useful book, A Pace of Grace, The Virtues of a Sustainable Life, that I really like. I am not only being partial (I know the author and her husband and her brothers, all geniuses). I really do like this book and take advice from it.
So, as I was perusing I came across the chapter entitled, 'Purify the Language of Your Life', and I will quote directly from the book because I landed accidentally on this paragraph, which had some of my thoughts in it...
"REPLACE THE INTERNAL CRITIC WITH THE GENTLE OBSERVER-
In purifying the language of our lives, we need to heal our criticism of ourselves. As we change the way we think about ourselves, we automatically become more gracious to others. If you catch yourself using shaming or negative self-talk, stop and replace it with a virtue of a positive intent. A friend of mine used to use terms like "I'm going in circles" and "I can't think straight". Now she stops herself and says, "I need to discern what I want to do" or "I am working on clarity."
As I was saying "I need to discern what I really must do" and when Augustus heard this
"As a man thinks in his heart, so is he."-Proverbs 23
"Hmm", I said. I could not discern the tone of his voice nor his facial expression but I was impressed and pleased not to mention surprised!
He then said that for example his thoughts were already on a lovely weekend
and Ollie felt that this was way too obvious requiring no explanation
and that he would bite me if I asked him any questions.
In summary, I learned today's lesson from two sassy cats and a paragraph in a book.
Cat boys filled their paws with Friday kisses and blew them in the air wishing all a lovely weekend!